It's funny how people automatically judge someone by the way they look. It's normal or natural in some cases, but how often do you do it.
My husband made me realize this happens more often than I like and we wanted to show the kids something. We went out to eat with my oldest and youngest. (Ages 10 and 2). We were seated in a booth off to the side. The waitress looked over to us and rolled her eyes. When she aproched she was rude and the. Asked about drinks. We ordered and then took off without a second look.
This is normal to us, people see someone with children and think loud and messy. And that's right for the most part. However my children know better and are generally quiet during our meal. So she brings it and grabs our order. Now we have been to this establishment several time and had amazing service everytime and with ALL four kids.
After what seems like forever she comes out with bread and drops it on the table. Rudely. Then when my husband asks for something additional she talked to him like he was an idiot. I was shocked and wanted to smack this woman. My husband is a VERY smart man. But she didn't treat him as such, she spoke to him as if he was my ten year old.
Meal come and more of the same. She doesn't show up with drink our refills, we have to ask for everything and even got another waitress involved. Needless to say my husband only tips her 10% of our bill. He normally goes 20-25%.
Got in the car and my oldest Alex asked why the waitress was so rude to his dad. So my husband told him a small story.
"Look at me and tell me what you see."
Alex responds with I see my dad.
"Right answer." He chuckled. "But that's not what the woman saw. She looked at me and thought redneck, uneducated and unkempt (unclean he had to explain this word). But am I those things?"
No dad your not. You shower, and are the smartest person I know and you went to school. But why would she think that?
"Becasue I have a beard. I know it sounds strange becasue your use to seeing it. But the woman saw a man with a long beard, jeans and t shirt with characters on it. She didn't look at me as a person."
"Yes it is. That's why you never judge a book by it's cover or a person for how they look. Get to know someone before you judge them."
That was the end of the story. But now I have my oldest tell the younger two about what happened and suddenly I see how they are talking to different people they hadn't before in school. They tell me all about how this person likes the same movies they do, or how smart or funny they are.
It doesn't take much, but get to know someone before you judge them. I know I will.
Also this is my hubby!! (He doesn't know I took it)